The mom dresscode.

So I've been pondering lately, what exactly am I supposed to wear now that I am with child? Am I expected to dress like a mom? What do moms wear anyway? If it's one thing I'm NOT wearing, it's mom jeans. Ohmygod. It just hit me - mom jeans are actually high waisted jeans, and now that I'm going to be a mom, I'll be automatically regarded as wearing 'mom jeans' should I decide to wear high waisted jeans, wouldn't I?! Thank god I could never carry off high waisted jeans anyway - I just look like a sausage with a face.

Yesterday as I was kissing my datuk goodbye to head off to watch the play, he made a curt comment after looking me up and down. "Why are you wearing such a short dress? You're pregnant tau 'Aainaa! You're going to be a mother!"

Ouch.

Sure, my dress was a tad bit short, and I couldn't bend over without flashing the world my undies (which, by the way, was a great deal at RM10 for three! Yeah, I've switched to cotton. See I'm making progress!), but am I supposed to start dressing 'mumsy' now that I'm pregnant? Just so you know, my dress was short, but I was wearing an oversized blazer over it, so it's not like I looked like I was about to go clubbing. Of course in the future, I'm not going to pull a Pamela Anderson and prance around in hot pants and cropped tops, but can't I pull out a short dress once in a while? What about a cute little playsuit? Would I be in over my head if I say no to tent tops and keep my clothes flattering? It's bad enough that I haven't worn my heels in AGES (god rest their poor soles) but now I'll have to start dressing mum-like? I should start wearing long sleeved t-shirts and trackshoots (the malay equivalent of tracksuits), shouldn't I??

Sorry, of course there are other mum-ariffic outfits out there other than tracksuits and t-shirts, but I'm a bit upset if I'm expected to sacrifice my personal style just because I'm going to be a mother. Sure, I'll make adjustments here and there...I'll probably choose a longer dress over a shorter one, and pants (stylish ones please) over skirts more often, but if it's one thing that makes me feel like myself, it's wearing an outfit which makes me feel good. And I know, once this baby comes, and I am finally a mother, my whole world will be wrapped around this tiny little being. So I think it's only fair that I am allowed to keep pieces of my old self, even if it comes in the form of clothing. Just because I take the time to look good doesn't make me a bad mom, in fact, I'm sure it makes me a better one.

I'm sure some of you will probably scoff and say "Wait till she becomes a mother, she won't have the time and energy to bother about clothes". Maybe you're right. But when that time comes, I'll have to remember not to lose myself and my personality, trudging around in sweats just because I'm caring for my little one. I'll probably struggle to find myself again, but by god, I'm DETERMINED to. I might not rank as a MILF, but I'll come pretty darn close. And that's the promise I'm making to myself, right here, right now. I'll wear my 4 inch heels again one day, just you wait!!! Role models : Kourtney Kardashian and Kimora Lee Simmons.

That's it, I'm putting Marie France Bodyline on speed dial.